Masculine Maternity

What if you walked into a busy antenatal clinic in Lagos and saw men standing side‑by‑side with their pregnant wives — not just carrying wallets and car keys, but clapping along to the songs, waiting patiently for the midwife, taking notes and handing over money for vitamins? A few years ago this would have seemed unusual in Nigeria, where pregnancy has long been treated as a “women’s domain.” Yet on a bright February morning in 2025 at the Alimosho General Hospital, journalist Oluwakemi Adelagun noticed something different: men were there, watching their wives stretch and sing and waiting quietly at the edge of the shed. They weren’t just dropping them off. They were present. A Premium Times investigation published on 14 May 2025 documented this quiet revolution. Men like Chibueze Okoli, a self‑employed father, and Kelvin, an Uber driver, now accompany their wives to antenatal appointments because flexible work schedules and supportive partners make it possible. On ...

Life can sometimes feel overwhelming, with responsibilities piling up and stress taking center stage. But one thing I’ve learned is this: laughter has the power to lighten even the heaviest of burdens. It’s not just a mood booster—it’s a healing tool for both the mind and body. In this post, I’ll share how laughter impacts our health, why it’s so important, and simple ways to bring more laughter into your everyday life. The Physical Benefits of Laughter Have you ever laughed so hard that your stomach hurt or tears rolled down your face? That’s your body reacting positively to laughter. Here’s how it helps: 1. Boosts Heart Health: Laughter improves blood flow, helping your heart work better. It’s like a mini cardio workout! 2. Relieves Pain: Laughing triggers the release of endorphins—your body’s natural painkillers—helping to ease discomfort. 3. Strengthens the Immune System: Studies show that laughter increases immune cells and antibodies, making it easier to fight off illnesses. 4...

Growing up in Nigeria, I was surrounded by cultural norms that made maternity care seem like a woman’s world. From pregnancy to childbirth, men were often considered outsiders, uninvolved in the process except for providing financial support. As I delved deeper into midwifery and personal growth, I realized how much harm these beliefs have caused—not only to women but to families as a whole. Let me share some myths I’ve encountered about men in maternity care and why I, as a man deeply involved in this field, believe they are completely wrong. Myth 1: “Maternity care is a woman’s responsibility.” This was something I believed for years. Society taught me that pregnancy and childbirth were “women’s issues,” and my role was limited to financial provision. What Changed My Mind: As a student midwife, I’ve seen firsthand how important it is for fathers to support their partners during pregnancy. I’ve watched men who attended antenatal appointments and actively participated in care improve t...