How a Male Midwife Can Provide Unique Support for Fathers

When we think of midwives, we often picture them supporting expectant mothers through pregnancy and childbirth. But did you know midwives can also play a vital role in helping fathers navigate this life-changing journey? As a male midwife, I’ve realized that fathers often feel overlooked or unsure of their role during pregnancy and childbirth. This is where male midwives can step in with unique support.

Let me share how we do it.

1. Relating to the Father’s Perspective

As a male midwife, I’ve often noticed that fathers feel more comfortable opening up to me. They see me as someone who understands their perspective—someone who’s been in their shoes or can relate to their concerns.

For Example: A father-to-be once told me, “I want to help, but I don’t know what to do.” I reassured him that it’s normal to feel this way and gave him practical tips on supporting his wife during labor.

This connection helps fathers feel heard and included, which is important for building confidence in their role.

2. Educating Fathers About Their Role

Many men don’t realize how much they can contribute during pregnancy and childbirth. A male midwife can:

Teach Practical Skills: Show fathers how to comfort their partners, such as through massages or breathing exercises during labor.

Provide Clear Guidance: Explain what to expect during childbirth, so they feel prepared instead of overwhelmed.

Address Questions Honestly: Fathers often have questions about medical procedures or their baby’s health. I make sure to answer these questions in a simple and straightforward way.

3. Encouraging Emotional Support

Some men think their role is limited to providing financial support, but emotional support is just as important.

Breaking Down Barriers: As a male midwife, I encourage fathers to be emotionally present, whether it’s holding their partner’s hand during labor or soothing her fears.

Empathy in Action: By sharing how they can comfort their partner, I help fathers see that their presence alone can make a big difference.

4. Being a Role Model

For many men, seeing another man involved in maternity care is eye-opening. It breaks the stereotype that childbirth is “only for women.”

Leading by Example: By being actively involved in caring for pregnant women, I show fathers that it’s okay—and even necessary—for men to be part of the journey.

Building Confidence: Fathers see me assisting in childbirth, and it inspires them to take an active role too.

5. Bridging Communication Gaps

Sometimes, cultural or societal norms make it hard for fathers to express themselves. A male midwife can act as a bridge to help fathers and mothers communicate better.

For Example: I’ve mediated discussions between couples, helping fathers understand how they can support their partners and encouraging mothers to involve their husbands more.

This teamwork strengthens their bond and prepares them for parenting together.

6. Creating a Safe Space

Pregnancy and childbirth can be overwhelming for fathers, too. They might worry about their partner’s health, finances, or the changes a baby will bring.

Why It Matters: Fathers need someone who can listen without judgment and offer practical solutions.

What I Do: I let fathers know it’s okay to feel anxious and that their concerns are valid. Together, we explore ways to manage these worries.

7. Promoting Father-Baby Bonding

Many fathers feel unsure about how to bond with their newborns. As a male midwife, I guide them through this process.

Skin-to-Skin Contact: I encourage fathers to hold their baby close after birth, which helps create a strong emotional connection.

Involvement in Baby Care: I teach fathers simple tasks like diaper changing and feeding, making them feel more involved in their baby’s life.

 A Story to Remember

During one delivery, a father was hesitant to stay in the room. He said, “I don’t think I can handle it.” I encouraged him to stay, explaining how much his presence would mean to his wife.

By the end of the delivery, he was holding his newborn baby, tears in his eyes. He told me, “Thank you for convincing me to stay. I didn’t know how important I could be in this moment.”

Conclusion

Male midwives have a unique ability to connect with fathers and help them embrace their role during pregnancy and childbirth. By providing practical advice, emotional support, and a relatable perspective, we ensure fathers are not just bystanders but active participants in this incredible journey.

Fatherhood starts long before the baby is born, and with the right guidance, fathers can make a world of difference for their partners and children.

What’s your experience with fatherhood or supporting fathers during pregnancy? Let’s talk in the comments—I’d love to hear your thoughts!